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Two of my favorite people: Gramma and Mom |
She has lived upon this earth
for nearly 92 years. She is small and spunky,
kind and wise. Everywhere she goes,
people are surprised that she in in her 90’s, and this is because she not only looks
younger (and is incredibly fashionable, I might add) but she also acts
younger. Her memory now is sharper than
mine, and I am over half her age. She
prays for me and her family on a daily basis, which gives me so much courage
during those days when I feel like I’ve been defeated. During our time together, she has taught me
the value of family and the graciousness of God.
How fortunate I am to be able
to call her both my friend and my grandma at the same time.
When I was young, my gramma
and I enjoyed taking walks. I don’t
recall what we talked about during those walks (don’t rub it in that her memory
is better than mine), but I am sure that our mutual love of cats came up
frequently. When my older sister was in
Brownies, Gramma and I would go “shopping” at the grocery store. Our shopping entailed walking up and down the
aisles just to see what was on the shelves.
At Christmas, Gramma would bake all kinds of cookies: those red and white cookies that are braided
and shaped like candy canes, drop cookies with the Hershey’s Kiss in the middle,
sugar cookies with frosting and sprinkle decorations, and green cookies shaped
like holly leaves with Red Hots scattered on top. She always let me put the walnuts in a device
that chopped the nuts with the turn of a handle. And she always let me lick the beaters
when she’d bake a cake.
When I was a teenager, Gramma
supported my sister’s and my “cultural growth” through ballet and music
lessons. In college, after I experienced
my first heartbreak, it was Gramma who took me in her arms and told me that it
was going to be okay, that God has a plan for me, and that she had been in my
shoes as well. She did find her true
love and never looked back at her past romances with regret.
After college, I began my
teaching career at a small private Christian school where I made a mere $11,000
per year. Because I couldn’t afford to
rent my own apartment, I lived in my Gramma’s basement. We had a very easy relationship. One that didn’t require a lot of obligations
on either side. And like magic, one of
us would suggest going out to dinner when the other one was thinking the exact same
thing. We’d watch Wheel of Fortune and
Jeopardy in the evenings, dozing in our chairs or reading magazines at the same
time. She loves my first cat, which I
adopted during this time, as much as I do, and 16 years later my cat seems to
have some of the same personality traits as my gramma has. Must be why I love him so much.
Now that I’m well into
adulthood, Gramma still teaches me a lot about life and faith and family. We can talk about anything. Sometimes Gramma will tell stories about her
past and then interrupt herself with, “Oh, I’ve probably already told you this
before.” The thing is, I love to hear
her tell the same stories over and over again.
My hope is that they will become a part of my own flesh, stories that
encourage and reaffirm all the traits that I love about my gramma and the rest
of my family. Her stories about my
grandfather -- Grappa, as I like to call him – are often about what a wise and
well-loved man he was. She recounts how
he was often overlooked in his family, and how Gramma found in him a treasure
beyond belief. When they were newly
married, a walk downtown to get ice cream was all that her heart needed to feel
his love. She talks about her father,
who was also somewhat of a misunderstood sort in his family, but who became the
best mechanic in Coeur d’Alene, and could diagnose a car’s woes by merely
listening to it. I am regaled with
stories about what Coeur d’Alene was like so many years ago, with tales of the
family’s military travels throughout the years, and stories about all the pets
they have had.
These stories are an utter
treasure to me. They help me understand
who she is, who my mom is, and really, who I am. Talking with my gramma is as easy as those
late-night conversations you might have with your best friend during a sleep
over. They are stories and lessons that
I want to carry with me all the rest of my life, because they pull me closer to
her than a warm winter quilt.
Just two days ago we were
chatting in the living room after having a bit of soup for lunch. She was lamenting that her walking ability is
a bit shaky…she now uses a cane to get around.
She wants to get some therapy to boost her confidence in herself, so that
she doesn’t feel so dependent on “that blasted cane.” And it was during this conversation that she
gave me the most beautiful depiction of Jesus, one that will bring me comfort
and hope for the rest of my life. She said
that when she is walking through her house and feels fear that she might fall,
she asks Jesus to take her by the hand, just like He does every day.
What a blessing and a privilege
to have my grandma so richly woven into my life. I hope that all of you have someone (or many
people) who fill your life with meaning as well. If you do, don’t forget to let them know just
how important they are to you.